What stands out? Let me be specific. What good moment stands out? Let’s face it. The bad moments stand out the way oil stands out when mixed with water. Those unfortunate events are branded with hot iron in our brains and souls. They are incredibly hard to forget or even deal with. And I get it. Pain is more potent than any other emotion, maybe even more than love or is it? I don’t believe so. Positive energy and positive thinking beats everything if you ask me.
But I am not talking about painful memories. I am talking about good memories. The kind that remind us how sweet life can be and how sweet life is. It could be a birthday, a wedding, a birth, a graduation celebration, a first kiss, an orgasm maybe, getting a job, buying a house, a trip to a long-desired destination, sitting in the grass talking to a loved one, a baptism, a long drive with your parents, and so many more moments that every one of us cherishes.
Let us remember those moments. They don’t need to be filmed or be in a picture. They are in your heart. They live in your brain and soul. Admittedly, it does help to have them on video or picture, so you can relive them anytime you want. But nothing will beat remembering them out of the blue, replaying them in your brain in slow motion like they do in professional sports.
This life that was handed to us, because none of us chose to be born, can be rocky and tumultuous. It can be severely unfair and mostly unpredictable. It can bring its challenges, issues, predicaments and negativity. Life is that way.
Yet…Life can be sweet as honey. Life can be beautiful. Life is full of gifts. Life is full of surprises, the good kind, to be sure. Let’s not spend too much time remembering our faults and shortcomings. Let us enjoy the little moments we get from the people we love. Let us laugh, smile, love, drink, eat, travel, help one another, take care of each other, lift others, care for others and love one another.
My best moments involve people, never things. Yes, my best moments are with my people. Those I love, those that I care about, those that are there when I need them the most. I have been blessed with a sublime group of people that seem to never be tired with me, my non-sense and my awesome jokes. My joy comes from within because I choose to be happy, because I don’t want to let life keep me down. My happiness is in me and I try to spread it around as much as I can and I know I am not the only one. I am an asshole sometimes, rarely I hope but I never miss an opportunity to do what I want to do and say what I feel.
I am not advocating for anyone to be like me because there is only one “me”. We do not have the same definition of happiness anyway and we never will. We are different people, with different needs, wants and dreams. We see life in a certain light, that varies from one person to the next. I am just humbly asking that whoever is reading this could just remember those moments they were happy and just proceed to smile.
As an eternal optimist, I do hope that the sum of your happy moments vastly outweighs the sad moments. I hope that you can find solace in the happy moments. I hope you can recognize when blessings are falling from the sky. I hope you can admit to yourself that you are happy even when others are not. There is no shame in that. Other people’s pain cannot stop you from living your life. I do understand that I am being selfish when I say that but please understand, I am not advocating for anyone to dismiss or mock another person’s pain. We cannot all be happy at the same time, that is not how life works. You can be mindful of your blessings and not celebrate when others aren’t doing so well. It is called humility. Plus, when you weren’t happy, I can guarantee you that others were celebrating some happy moment that happened to them.
In the end, what is important, is for you to be happy and enjoy that moment, as it might not last forever. Happiness is just a state, not a permanent one. Happiness can last as long as it wants, not as long as you want. Happiness can disappear just as quickly as it appeared. So, we can never have a guarantee that our happy state of today, will be there tomorrow. It might be or not. Therefore, let’s enjoy those lucky moments we get.
Enjoy your life. Spend time with your loved ones. Cherish them. Spoil them. Love them and tell them so. Take care of your people, as they take care of you. Please do not hide your appreciation. Please try to skip unnecessary tasks so you could be with those you love. Please take care of yourself and learn to recognize when good things happen to you. Please do good things for others. Please, try not to miss an opportunity to be with those that make your heart skip a beat. Please stop for a moment and enjoy your life. Things will come and go, so will people. But your investment in those you love, will be an investment that will resonate in your soul forever. I am sure you will not regret it. And, if it should happen that it doesn’t work out, well, recover and repeat. Consistency is key, and it is only too late when you are dead.
Simple as that.
Just one man’s opinion…
Now, smile and go on with your day.