My first holy trinity isn’t the Christian one. I do not care about God, JC (cool dude, all things considered) and the holy spirit. Almost 2 billion people care about them and I believe that is more than enough. I did publish a text about my first holy trinity last year which was about self love, self respect and self worth. Quite the self-centered text judging by its title but it is worth a read or a listen. Please check it out.
Be healthy, be positive and have good habits. My second holy trinity. It is just as important as the first one. It encompasses 3 pillars of my very existence, my daily life. Nevertheless, I am not as healthy as I would like to be and that is tied to the good habits I haven’t acquired yet. One thing I can say for sure, I am overwhelmingly positive. Sometimes, it infuriates my better half but at least, I know I am not pissing her off on purpose or am I 😉? I am just a positive person. My parents are to blame for the non-stop positivity! The holy trinity is a work in progress, it is constantly changing, evolving and it never stops being relevant. I am here to encourage anyone who might be interested in this holy trinity of mine.
- Be healthy.
Eat as many vegetables and fruits as you can, cut the alcohol and soft drinks (something I must do), drink water, cook and stop eating out (another thing I must cut dramatically) sleep early and work out. Do those things consistently and you will feel great. It is just a fact, not speculation. Being healthy minimizes the risk of many diseases (cardiovascular, cancer, etc.), your immune system will be stronger than average, you will age gracefully and most importantly, you will feel great. Your mind will feel great because the body, the vessel the soul lives in, is in good condition. You find yourself being at peace, calm, sometimes even creative, I swear.
One thing I want to point out and insist on: exercising isn’t necessarily about running marathons or doing CrossFit! Studies have shown that a 45-minute power walk done 5 times a week has immense benefits. The same goes with swimming, riding a bike, yoga, running mildly, a little cardio at the gym, etc. No one is training for the Olympics here! Most people aren’t! We are just trying to stay healthy and be strong. Being healthy is about consistency and making it a way of life, that is all.
- Be positive.
Most people confuse being positive with living in a fairy tale: living in a world where nothing bad happens, where everything is peachy, where the good guys win and live long, where the bad guys don’t win, where bad things almost never happen, a world where unfairness is kept to a minimum and happiness is constant. That is utter nonsense. Let’s be honest, let’s be real: Unfairness, injustice, death, illness, war, famine, rape, murder will always exist so long as people are around. That is a fact and most of the time, there isn’t much we can do about the evil in the world.
But…being positive is believing in a good outcome but knowing and still acknowledging things might go south. Being positive is having this insatiable belief that things will get better when things are going wrong. It isn’t fucking easy with all the disappointments flying around but it is worth it! Being positive is an attitude, a way of life, just as much as being healthy. It is a habit, a good habit. It is also about consistency. I don’t know people whose life is worse off because they were constantly positive. If you know any, please let me know, I would like to get their insight, for real.
- Have good habits.
Well, being healthy and being positive are immensely good habits. Let’s add a few to the list: loving people, caring about people, respecting people, being of service, helping others, reading, writing, watching movies, enjoying life, learning new stuff, having a routine, waking up early, investing your money, paying off debts, going after that degree you want so bad, forging new relationships and alliances, being polite, being grateful, forgiving, apologizing, and so on. Moreover, eliminating bad habits is always a good move towards having good habits. They say you should always replace a bad habit with a new good habit. They say the void left by the bad habit needs to be filled. So, do just that whenever you can.
That is my second holy trinity. It sounds easy and it is easy. One must apply themselves towards those goals. Consistency is key and it is only too late when you are dead! I believe that with all my heart. I know this is a new year and we are bound to have new resolutions we must talk about and even believe in and that is fine.
However, I have a radical take. Here it is: Do not have resolutions for the new year, you don’t need them. Forget the resolutions. Instead, create new good habits. Follow your progression, make these new habits part of your routine and daily life. Resolutions do not have any weight because they sound like something that will be over within the 3rd week of January, the way a gym is empty on the 3rd week of January after being packed the first 2 weeks. Good intentioned people who believe in resolutions flood the gym but unfortunately, they lack the consistency to follow through and make the gym part of their routine. Usually, those who don’t have the fortitude to follow through are the ones who disappear. I am not admonishing them, nor am I judging them; I am just stating a fact. I know because I used to be one of those people. Now the gym is part of my daily routine. I’m not better than those people, I just made the gym a new good habit. That is all.
Creating new good habits is the safest way to change one’s life for the best. Just sit down and make a list of things you’d like to change and start the process of changing them. I swear to you, it might be simpler than you think. Just make the first step and write down that list.
Be healthy, be positive and have good habits. Your life will be better in the long run.
Just one man’s opinion.
Now smile and go on with your day!
And in the spirit of good manners, happy new year everyone!